Last Week I learned that …

I learned last week that a mother’s lot, no matter what men say is never straightforward.  It doesn’t matter how old they are or how far away the child is, they only ever a thought away.

We say, ‘we only want them to be happy’, and while they are in our care we move hell and high water to ensure that they are.  Mostly of course we succeed even in the most adverse situations.  I am careful what I saying because I know from my own experience and we only have to watch the media in all it forms to know that family life is not always attractive, hopeful or even happy, but a mum will always try her best.
This week my daughter began her quest to further her education in Brazil.  It was always an option but the time has not been right.  Brazilian bureaucracy has not been kind, consistent or fair.  So to allow for this and also to become familiar with the politics of the education system  she has played the waiting game.  Besides this there is the financial commitment, loss and the difficulty finding work when she is not even allowed a work permit!
Having made the decision to apply for the study opportunity; ‘all the balls go into the air’ and ‘What ifs? and ‘How?’ a multitude of unanswered questions and  soul searching.
To the child it is a ‘nightmare to the mother, at such a distance it is indescribable.  The resources I have drawn upon in the past are outdated and redundant.  Her experience at the moment is something I can only imagine.  At her age I was a mother and my experience was that of a young mum at home.
Regardless of good advice, attention and even financial repair I can only watch.
I have to call upon an outer experience; the universal mother who over the eons has endured  the pain of our children who have to make difficult decisions in foreign lands whether they chose to be there or not
Leaving the problem with this ‘other’ being does ease the pain.  I can ‘stop worrying’ because my child can connect with the universal mother the one we have all bared our souls to over the centuries.
Whether we believe or not in the super power; there is a bond to previous and future mothers there is a support network for women whether we see it or not.  I am hoping.